Things we should stop feeling embarrassed about
Shame and embarrassment can hinder people from experiencing some of the greatest happinesses that life can offer, and all because we’re scared of what other people will think. To make matters worse, the things we’re embarrassed about are often founded upon flimsy, made-up social norms that force us to tone our humanity down. Fear of embarrassment is extremely time-consuming as well, and hurts our self-confidence, which is essential in our personal, professional, and spiritual lives. So, how can we counter it? Well, unfortunately, practice makes perfect. Embrace the things that might have made you sweat nervously before so that you can stop letting them control you today! You’ll soon find that life continues on after these experiences, and other people’s opinions will matter less. Hopefully you also help set an example for others. Click through and see all the things we should stop feeling embarrassed about.
Amber Tamblyn, David Cross share how couples therapy helped both on- and off-screen
Many people enter the world of romance under the misconception that relationships are easy. Sure the first couple years might fly by, but as humans naturally evolve alongside one another, there's bound to be some growing pains. There's also the misconception that we all innately know how to be a good partner, even though we usually only learn by trial and error. Amber Tamblyn and David Cross are very candid about the key to their long-lasting romance, and it's all about putting in work. In a conversation surrounding their new film 'You Hurt My Feelings,' which follows a couple in therapy, the off-screen couple spoke about how they keep their 15-year relationship healthy. "David and I have been in couples therapy before," Tamblyn said, explaining how she relates to the characters. "I don't know any relationship that has lasted past 10 years that hasn't [been in couples therapy]," she added. "And if it has, then something's wrong with those people if they haven't done couples therapy at some point." Cross shared the advice he'd give to their characters: "You've got to work on it. ... I think [our characters were like,] 'Somebody else will fix it.' And they don't seem like they really wanted to do the real work that has to be done. And that's just being honest. And I mean, literally, the only piece of advice I would give is just be honest with yourself and with each other." In recent years, the idea of therapy has become less taboo, as many realize there's no shame in working through your problems with the help of a qualified professional. For some celebrity couples, it has made a world of difference. Click through to see which stars swear by relationship counseling.
Absurd dating rules from the '30s, '40s, and '50s
Dating in the modern age is a minefield, especially in the digital era with apps, texting, and entirely new codes of technological behavior in the mix. There are a lot of things to think about—you have to pick the right platforms, figure out how to properly construct your profile to attract the right kind of people, and not fall for any false advertisements. You also have to navigate texting (how soon is too soon to reply?), cope with the inevitability of being ghosted, and deal with a lot of things that are separate from actually meeting someone. Because of all these new complications, we seem to have a romanticized idea of dating in the past. In our collective imagination, romance "back then" was filled with meet-cutes, chivalry was alive and well, and there was an added air of mystery because you couldn't stalk a person's entire digital history online. Plus, you could lie about your age! But in all seriousness, dating in the 21st century is nothing compared to the strict social codes permeating the first half of the 20th century. Magazine columns and entire books were dedicated to teaching young folks the proper etiquette when it came to courting and being courted. While very detailed and highly regarded at the time, those guides have not aged well in the least. From shockingly sexist gender roles to hilariously ridiculous things that were considered in "bad taste," nearly every single one of these rules should be broken in today's age. You may be surprised at how far we've come since the 1930s, '40s, and even '50s, though it's equally surprising just how many people relied upon these guides to determine another person's character. Check out this gallery to see the most bizarre etiquette rules from not-long-ago-enough, and revel in the dating freedom we have today.